Blurb: We can each decide our own fate: learn how to celebrate YOU, don’t worry about THEM, feel the togetherness in US. Take charge of your life. Let the Slumflower show you how.
In What a Time to be Alone, the Slumflower will be your life guru, confidante and best friend. She’ll show you that being alone is not just okay: it’s just about the best freaking thing that’s ever happened to you. As she says, ‘You’re bad as hell and you were made with intention.’ It’s about time you realised.
Peppered with insightful Igbo proverbs from Chidera’s Nigerian mother and full of her own original artwork, What a Time to be Alone will help you navigate the modern world. Decide your self-worth, take time to heal and empower yourself in this messy world. Avoid other people’s demons and realise that everyone is protecting themselves from something – no matter how aggressive their method. Sustain and grow healthy relationships and avoid toxicity in your friendships.
Own your story. Create your own narrative. Read this book.
Title: What a Time to be Alone
Author: Chidera Eggerue
Publisher: Quadrille, an imprint of Hardie Grant
Genre: Non-Fiction, Self Help
In need of a reminder why you’re perfect just the way you are? Got the feeling that you’re going to be forever alone? Let the Slumflower’s wisdom wash over you and take all your worries away…
I picked up this book a while ago but was saving it for a time when I felt that I needed a boost. Without getting too personal, I’m coming up to being single for two and a half years and despite a few halfhearted dates and some new war stories to tell, I find myself going between wanting the comfort and safety of a relationship so badly and then not having any energy for it! Basically, after losing my dad almost two years ago, one of my biggest fears is being alone. Now I’m sure a lot of people have that same fear to some degree but lately it’s been making me think that I needed to be in a relationship in order to be happy – which is just not true. Cue this book…
Written in a plaintive, authoritative yet kind voice, Eggerue reminds us in these pages that we are perfect the way that we are. We were all made with intention and love which exists inside all of us and we are good enough as we are. With Igbo proverbs and Chidera’s interpretation of them, this is a simple, absorbing guide to loving yourself and realising that you can live a perfectly fulfilled life on your own. I loved that this book didn’t just focus on advice concerning romantic relationships but also those we have with family and friends. The main message of this book is knowing your worth and keeping your head up. I also have to note that the styling of this book is fabulous. Packed with bright colours and patterns that really drive the words home in a fun, eye catching way. If there’s one way to get something to stick in my head, it’s by surrounding it in bright colours!
As for what I disliked, there was nothing that I can think of to note. This book, genuinely, left me with the feeling of being lighter, being more settled and diminished one of my biggest life worries. In the days after I finished this book, I found myself being less critical of my appearance and being more motivated to reach my goals, none of which centre around relationships. As far as my hunt for big-sister style self-help books goes, this one is very firmly on my list of recommendations.
Overall, I can’t recommend this book enough to absolutely everyone. Whether you’re in a happy relationship, not interested in one at all or are just going through some tough times, the Slumflower has some wise words for you!
Have you read this book? Or maybe you’ve read something similar? What did you think? I’d love to know!
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